I read your posting and am particularly concerned that parents like you are in the position you describe. I think parents should have more control over their homes, and be able to make the final decisions about what to do when homework problems arise. There are other, better ways to handle situations like this. The problem is usually that most teachers don't recognize the problems they are causing over homework, and most parents don't have a model with which to use to take charge. You might find my website helpful in that regard. Kenneth Goldberg, Ph.D. www.thehomeworktrap.com.