I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.
Thanks for sharing your story!
I have been living with HPV for 10 years. I contracted the virus when I was 18 years old. Unfortunately, due to the lack of education regarding HPV, I was misdiagnosed as having skin tags- well these skin tags were actually warts. I was very careful with sexual relationships. This was my 3rd sexual encounter, but one time (like you said) was all it took. I made an extremely poor choice of judgment by having unprotected sex. Not only did I contract HPV, I also became pregnant with twins.
I don’t know if he knew that he had the virus, I didn’t see any symptoms of warts – but at that age I hadn’t even heard of the HPV before.
When thinking about telling a potentially new significant other it can be extremely frightening and maybe even embarrassing. I have been in a sexual relationship since my HPV diagnosis and I have told every person I have ever had a relationship with sexual or non-sexual. I know that is my responsibility.
I am 29 years old and now married. I remember getting the courage to tell my husband (then boyfriend) about my HPV. For me, I have never been clear of the virus due to an organ transplant – the medication I am on suppresses my immune system therefore my body cannot fight the virus.
I definitely think you have to tell any new partner about your HPV related diagnosis. If he doesn’t understand- then ask yourself do you really want to be with someone like that? You are worth loving and you deserve that. The more honest you are I think makes you a better person. I truly believe honesty is the best policy.
Like you said, it doesn’t matter how many sexual partners one has, it only takes one. Keep your immune system healthy if you can and make sure you get your regular check-ups. Your potential partner may even have the virus and not even know it.