Know your pain. My husband of 22 years no longer seems very attracted to me. He tells me daily that he loves me and thinks I'm sexy (even though I'm disabled and have gained a bit of weight) but actions are louder than words. Even though I am disabled I am still able to enjoy sex and crave it often but he is just not into it. He will make excuses or not be able to get it up or not keep it up. Also won't look at me during it. But when he watches porn he is at attention without a problem. He will have a problem having sex with me then turn around an hour later and be going at it. He is sneaky about it and lies to me about it.
Just to be clear, I'm not mad about masturbating, I just feel the porn takes it to a different level.
It makes me feel like he is just tired of me and wants to look at something else. It is bad enough that I can't do everything I used to do but it makes me feel so ugly. It is killing my confidence in myself. It is changing sex for me into something else. Instead of an incredible rush it now feels like begging and pleading for him to be physically interested. Like I am crying asking him to want me.
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Know your pain. My husband of 22 years no longer seems very attracted to me. He tells me daily that he loves me and thinks I'm sexy (even though I'm disabled and have gained a bit of weight) but actions are louder than words. Even though I am disabled I am still able to enjoy sex and crave it often but he is just not into it. He will make excuses or not be able to get it up or not keep it up. Also won't look at me during it. But when he watches porn he is at attention without a problem. He will have a problem having sex with me then turn around an hour later and be going at it. He is sneaky about it and lies to me about it.
Just to be clear, I'm not mad about masturbating, I just feel the porn takes it to a different level.
It makes me feel like he is just tired of me and wants to look at something else. It is bad enough that I can't do everything I used to do but it makes me feel so ugly. It is killing my confidence in myself. It is changing sex for me into something else. Instead of an incredible rush it now feels like begging and pleading for him to be physically interested. Like I am crying asking him to want me.
August 14, 2017 - 7:20amThis Comment
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