My boyfriend and I are also having this same issue. Hes 21 and Im 19. In the begining of our relationship we had sex everytime we saw each other and when I moved in with him it began to happen less and less with him cumming in less time each time. At the time I asked him about it and told him how it hurts me and he said it was because he "had this weird thing about other people being around" yet we have since moved away from them and its only gotten worse. I used to feel so in love and at peace during intercourse and he used to try and attend to my needs even though I cant cum. For 7 months out of the year we have been together he has regected me more and more. We have sex maybe two times a week and the entire time is spent getting him off as fast as possible with absolutely no attention to my needs. Lately I have begun to feel this horrible depression and shame during sex. It feels like hes making faces of disgust at me, like he just wants to be anywhere but with me. I dont enjoy sex anymore, its the most depressing and degrading thing I have done now. Yet every single night I sit there and beg him to have sex with me. I tried sexy underwear and he didnt even notice. Everytime I see those panties I feel embarrassed for thinking they would work. I tried talking to him about it and I got empty promises, I even had a mental breakdown from all the rejection and I got the same empty promises.
In the past I had a very high self esteem and never had to worry about my male friends sexual attraction to me. But, now everytime I see my reflection I search for possible explanations everywhere from my weight to how I talk, walk, eat, breath, or dress. Sometimes Ill ask him bluntly if hell ever tell me what it is I need to change, as always hell quickly tell me that its not me or hell say that we will have sex that night, he has yet to keep that promise.
I have heard every excuse out there from headaches to sleep deprivation or my personal despair bringer "I cant". Everytime he shoots me down I smile and say that its okay but it always brings fresh tears I have to hide in the bathroom. How can he tell me that he loves me but wont do this little thing for me. Every fucking night I cry silently into my pillow while he sleeps next to me.
I dont think hes cheating on me because his Ex cheated on him with like 5 of his friends but how can I really now? Please somebody read this and help me
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My boyfriend and I are also having this same issue. Hes 21 and Im 19. In the begining of our relationship we had sex everytime we saw each other and when I moved in with him it began to happen less and less with him cumming in less time each time. At the time I asked him about it and told him how it hurts me and he said it was because he "had this weird thing about other people being around" yet we have since moved away from them and its only gotten worse. I used to feel so in love and at peace during intercourse and he used to try and attend to my needs even though I cant cum. For 7 months out of the year we have been together he has regected me more and more. We have sex maybe two times a week and the entire time is spent getting him off as fast as possible with absolutely no attention to my needs. Lately I have begun to feel this horrible depression and shame during sex. It feels like hes making faces of disgust at me, like he just wants to be anywhere but with me. I dont enjoy sex anymore, its the most depressing and degrading thing I have done now. Yet every single night I sit there and beg him to have sex with me. I tried sexy underwear and he didnt even notice. Everytime I see those panties I feel embarrassed for thinking they would work. I tried talking to him about it and I got empty promises, I even had a mental breakdown from all the rejection and I got the same empty promises.
June 4, 2014 - 12:15amIn the past I had a very high self esteem and never had to worry about my male friends sexual attraction to me. But, now everytime I see my reflection I search for possible explanations everywhere from my weight to how I talk, walk, eat, breath, or dress. Sometimes Ill ask him bluntly if hell ever tell me what it is I need to change, as always hell quickly tell me that its not me or hell say that we will have sex that night, he has yet to keep that promise.
I have heard every excuse out there from headaches to sleep deprivation or my personal despair bringer "I cant". Everytime he shoots me down I smile and say that its okay but it always brings fresh tears I have to hide in the bathroom. How can he tell me that he loves me but wont do this little thing for me. Every fucking night I cry silently into my pillow while he sleeps next to me.
I dont think hes cheating on me because his Ex cheated on him with like 5 of his friends but how can I really now? Please somebody read this and help me
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