I'm so glad I found this. The most horrific part of this issue is feeling like there's something wrong with me, I feel like a big part of womanhood is being sexually attractive to men so it feels like if even the one who loves you isn't you're like failing at being a woman. My boyfriend and I were having sex and hanging out for two years before we finally got into a relationship. From the beginning he always had a lower sex drive than me, but I wouldn't say it was as much of an issue. Although I will say from early on he projected it onto me saying I'm a nympho and my sex drive is abnormally high and there's nothing wrong with him. The first few times we had sex were amazing, he was so into me and it went for ages. Everytime after that has generally been less than 5 mins but he'd always compensate for it by going down on me. Now I've reached breaking point. He forgets to have sex, I've heard the same excuses you've all heard a million times over, and I've brought it up with him periodically ever since. I really love him and were always affectionate but this is driving me crazy and making me feel horrible about myself. I too am looking in the mirror wondering what's wrong, I'm overweight and he wants me to lose weight but says he's still attracted to me no matter what. Just all feels like bullshit and everytime he rejects me I would cry, beat myself up about it and start a fight. Its gotten to a point now where I don't even care I just turn to the wall and cry and just wipe my face pretend nothings wrong. Reading all you ladies responses even though no ones got answers made me feel better, its horrible because today I reached my wits end and I broke up with him. I feel as a woman you should never have to go through that. I know he still watches porn too. I wanna find a man who wants me, he makes me feel inadequate and unwanted. I hope you ladies found a solution to your problem and I hope I work something out too, thank you for sharing your stories and letting me know I'm not alone. If you're reading this, this has happened to so many of us, but you're worth way more than what you're getting now. Do what's best for you, do what you want for yourself.
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I'm so glad I found this. The most horrific part of this issue is feeling like there's something wrong with me, I feel like a big part of womanhood is being sexually attractive to men so it feels like if even the one who loves you isn't you're like failing at being a woman. My boyfriend and I were having sex and hanging out for two years before we finally got into a relationship. From the beginning he always had a lower sex drive than me, but I wouldn't say it was as much of an issue. Although I will say from early on he projected it onto me saying I'm a nympho and my sex drive is abnormally high and there's nothing wrong with him. The first few times we had sex were amazing, he was so into me and it went for ages. Everytime after that has generally been less than 5 mins but he'd always compensate for it by going down on me. Now I've reached breaking point. He forgets to have sex, I've heard the same excuses you've all heard a million times over, and I've brought it up with him periodically ever since. I really love him and were always affectionate but this is driving me crazy and making me feel horrible about myself. I too am looking in the mirror wondering what's wrong, I'm overweight and he wants me to lose weight but says he's still attracted to me no matter what. Just all feels like bullshit and everytime he rejects me I would cry, beat myself up about it and start a fight. Its gotten to a point now where I don't even care I just turn to the wall and cry and just wipe my face pretend nothings wrong. Reading all you ladies responses even though no ones got answers made me feel better, its horrible because today I reached my wits end and I broke up with him. I feel as a woman you should never have to go through that. I know he still watches porn too. I wanna find a man who wants me, he makes me feel inadequate and unwanted. I hope you ladies found a solution to your problem and I hope I work something out too, thank you for sharing your stories and letting me know I'm not alone. If you're reading this, this has happened to so many of us, but you're worth way more than what you're getting now. Do what's best for you, do what you want for yourself.
September 15, 2015 - 4:57pmThis Comment
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