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I am so sorry you ladies are going through this pain too. I cry myself to sleep many nights and he knows it, but never comforts me. My man barely kisses me. He holds my hand and occasionally holds me at night, but he rarely initiates sex and on the rare occasion he does...it feels like pity sex because I have complained about lack of intimacy. He loves me, but does not make me feel desired in any way whatsoever. He uses the excuse that I never initiate sex so I am to blame....but when your man wont kiss you or even touch you intimately, you lose your confidence in initiating sex...I have never been with a man who didn't make me feel desired or want sex before this relationship. We have been though a lot... he cheated when out of town both physically and sexting and I read all the messages. He was so turned on by these other women....but he is not turned on by me at all and that hurts. Granted he was high when he cheated and sober now...but it still hurts and has me sinking into a deep depression. I love him...but I am 37 and still have a sex drive. I don't want to spend the last few years of my youth feeling so undesired. It hurts.