Well I'm struggling with this as well. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 35. I was very honest and upfront about how I view sex. Im a very sexual person. And he said he was too. But now a year later it seems like I almost have to beg him to have sex with me. I don't understand it? Feels degrading. I know our work schedules are off and we both open early for work and he does have a little boy which he takes up all of our attention. But in the beginning he made time for us. I know he loves me and we are still very affectionate with eachother. That's never stopped. He was addicted to heroine so now he is on methadone so there is another reason because Ive read that it lowers sex drive. But he's been on it sense before we were together. I feel like im just helping him to justify it. BUT what about how I feel and what I want and my needs. He talks aboUT how it will change when I move in with him because he will have more time with me. And then he talks about marriage and having a baby with me. But I feel like how can I commit to a sex less marriage. I swear everything thing else is amazing between us. Like cloud 9 good. But sex he just could care less. Maybe I'm putting to much pressure on him and that's a turn off. But I feel like he lied to me. I mean why say sex is important to you if it's really not. He'd rather spend time with me connecting in other ways. Which is amazing and all but sometimes I just want him physically. It's not like I can just go have sex with someone else.... I'm lost
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Well I'm struggling with this as well. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 35. I was very honest and upfront about how I view sex. Im a very sexual person. And he said he was too. But now a year later it seems like I almost have to beg him to have sex with me. I don't understand it? Feels degrading. I know our work schedules are off and we both open early for work and he does have a little boy which he takes up all of our attention. But in the beginning he made time for us. I know he loves me and we are still very affectionate with eachother. That's never stopped. He was addicted to heroine so now he is on methadone so there is another reason because Ive read that it lowers sex drive. But he's been on it sense before we were together. I feel like im just helping him to justify it. BUT what about how I feel and what I want and my needs. He talks aboUT how it will change when I move in with him because he will have more time with me. And then he talks about marriage and having a baby with me. But I feel like how can I commit to a sex less marriage. I swear everything thing else is amazing between us. Like cloud 9 good. But sex he just could care less. Maybe I'm putting to much pressure on him and that's a turn off. But I feel like he lied to me. I mean why say sex is important to you if it's really not. He'd rather spend time with me connecting in other ways. Which is amazing and all but sometimes I just want him physically. It's not like I can just go have sex with someone else.... I'm lost
August 14, 2016 - 7:23amThis Comment
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