I am so relieved to hear I am not the only one experiencing these issues. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and have a 1yo daughter together. I also have an 8yo from a previous relationship. In the beginning he couldn’t keep his hands off me and was very take charge and aggressive sexually which is what attracted me in the first place. I knew he watched porn, but it never effected us. About a year later we moved in together and had our baby and our sex life has dwindled. We have more than enough time and opportunity even though we have children, but 95% of the time I have to initiate sex. I try to wait for him to come to me but as time goes on I get more and more frustrated so I just make the move. I don’t understand why he doesn’t come to me with his wants or desires bc I am open with him about everything. He will watch porn and/or masturbate before he will come to me. This makes me feel so undesirable and unattractive. We have argued about this before and he has tons of excuses about being under a lot of stress and pressure all the time with work and school. He also claims that our relationship isn’t just based on sex. I agree but I have a healthy sex drive and wish we could connect more on an intimate level. Outside of this issue everything is great. He’s a great boyfriend, loving father, and a hard worker. I have considered calling it quits before but I just can’t break my kids hearts. When I have tried to discuss this with him I get emotional and he gets angry and defensive and tells me he’ll never be good enough for me which I am not implying what so ever. It feels great to get this off my chest. Any advice is much appreciated!!
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I am so relieved to hear I am not the only one experiencing these issues. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and have a 1yo daughter together. I also have an 8yo from a previous relationship. In the beginning he couldn’t keep his hands off me and was very take charge and aggressive sexually which is what attracted me in the first place. I knew he watched porn, but it never effected us. About a year later we moved in together and had our baby and our sex life has dwindled. We have more than enough time and opportunity even though we have children, but 95% of the time I have to initiate sex. I try to wait for him to come to me but as time goes on I get more and more frustrated so I just make the move. I don’t understand why he doesn’t come to me with his wants or desires bc I am open with him about everything. He will watch porn and/or masturbate before he will come to me. This makes me feel so undesirable and unattractive. We have argued about this before and he has tons of excuses about being under a lot of stress and pressure all the time with work and school. He also claims that our relationship isn’t just based on sex. I agree but I have a healthy sex drive and wish we could connect more on an intimate level. Outside of this issue everything is great. He’s a great boyfriend, loving father, and a hard worker. I have considered calling it quits before but I just can’t break my kids hearts. When I have tried to discuss this with him I get emotional and he gets angry and defensive and tells me he’ll never be good enough for me which I am not implying what so ever. It feels great to get this off my chest. Any advice is much appreciated!!
November 28, 2017 - 7:08amThis Comment
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