I can hear and feel the pain in your message!! Please let me reassure you that you are not alone! This is just something that happened to you that was unfortunate, but your life is certainly not over! Try, as hard as it is, not to think of your life moving forward as if it's over. People live long happy lives with these conditions and have meaningful relationships and even marriages!
If I were you, I would find a gyn that you really trust. They can give you the facts and help you move on with the news. Also, I know places like Planned Parenthood have counseling and support groups. Do you have something like Planned Parenthood near you? It doesn't cost much money, and I think that you would find some good advice from a professional.
Ultimately, whomever you end up marrying should and will love you unconditionally. It's important to know how to be honest with the men in your life moving forward and a counselor can help you with that. Until that time comes, I would abstain from oral and sex and focus on developing a relationship with men and finding intimacy with them. Intimacy doesn't always include sex. Intimacy is talking, sharing each other's hopes and fears and being compassionate. The right guy will come along and he WILL BE ALL of those things!
Please keep in touch!