I can relate to some of these situations. But sometimes I'm not sure if I can leave. We have two kids who adore my husband. He has only physically hurt me 3 times in 12 years, usually by grabbing me very forcefully. I have had bruises. It only occurs if I disagree with him and argue, which I feel scared to do increasingly through the years. I feel sad reading this now because I sound like I'm in denial. But we have families that probably wouldn't believe me. And he would definitely try to take our kids. I just didn't think that I'd be this miserable at this point in my life. It's not like it's everyday and he does try to be kind and loving. Actually, he makes me feel very cold at times because I'm not always ready to respond to him. The worst confrontation occurred recently in front of my 5 year old son. He was being difficult about getting dressed, and my husband started vigorously criticizing me for making him soft. I had had enough of it, so I defended myself. He said to stop pointing at him. But I didn't. So he grabbed my arm and twisted it. I'm so sad that my son saw it. But I slapped his hand away. We never talked about it or acknowledged it. But he tried to be intimate the other day and when told him that I was still mad, he got angry. We still haven't talked about it. This can't be normal!!!! Anybody feel this? By the way, we both have families that adamantly oppose divorce. It would be an explosion around us if I left. Any advice?
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I can relate to some of these situations. But sometimes I'm not sure if I can leave. We have two kids who adore my husband. He has only physically hurt me 3 times in 12 years, usually by grabbing me very forcefully. I have had bruises. It only occurs if I disagree with him and argue, which I feel scared to do increasingly through the years. I feel sad reading this now because I sound like I'm in denial. But we have families that probably wouldn't believe me. And he would definitely try to take our kids. I just didn't think that I'd be this miserable at this point in my life. It's not like it's everyday and he does try to be kind and loving. Actually, he makes me feel very cold at times because I'm not always ready to respond to him. The worst confrontation occurred recently in front of my 5 year old son. He was being difficult about getting dressed, and my husband started vigorously criticizing me for making him soft. I had had enough of it, so I defended myself. He said to stop pointing at him. But I didn't. So he grabbed my arm and twisted it. I'm so sad that my son saw it. But I slapped his hand away. We never talked about it or acknowledged it. But he tried to be intimate the other day and when told him that I was still mad, he got angry. We still haven't talked about it. This can't be normal!!!! Anybody feel this? By the way, we both have families that adamantly oppose divorce. It would be an explosion around us if I left. Any advice?
March 30, 2016 - 8:07pmThis Comment
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