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Hello, and thank you for sharing your question.  I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch.  I'd love to give you some helpful advice on the matter.

After reading your story I am seeing a few things that need to change between you two in order for this to work out.

First let me state the obvious: your boyfriend is nervous about having intercourse with you and I am seeing two possible reasons for this.

#1 His self-confidence is very low.  This is due to many different things most likely UNRELATED to you.  If you want to help, direct the attention away from yourself and onto him.  You cause more stress in his life when you demand the love, attention and care that he can't even give himself.  So #1 direct attention away from your needs and onto his in order to boost his self-confidence

#2 If fixing you sex-life is your priority, you will continually push him away.  He needs a care-giver right now, not a sex partner. So, no more conversations about sex.  You have only known him for a short time.  There is probably more going on in his heart and mind then you know and in order to help he needs to trust you.  He cannot trust you if you keep wanting him to give you something he is not strong enough to give right now.  Try to understand what is going on without bringing up the things that make him feel more defeated.

I hope you guys can work things out.

Faith

February 1, 2015 - 9:40am

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