Hello and thank you for sharing your question. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this rough spot in your relationship. i'd love to give you some helpful insight on the matter.
I understand that you feel replaced by porn and resent your husband for watching it, but in order to be reconciled with your husband sexually, you must meet his needs, just as you want him to meet yours. The more the go "ape shit" the more he will distance himself from you.
Its not your fault he is not attached to you; not at all. But you need to try to understand him. Porn gives your husband release, a way to escape troubles, a place without judged or failure, pleasure.
His need for porn may be caused by something much deeper than simply not be attracted to you. If you are able to give him the emotional security and pleasure that porn gives him, then he will naturally return to wanting you again. I am NOT saying you need to turn into a porn star for your husband. I'm saying the he has emotional needs as well and you need to find out what those needs are before judging him because judging him will only push him away further.
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Hello and thank you for sharing your question. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this rough spot in your relationship. i'd love to give you some helpful insight on the matter.
I understand that you feel replaced by porn and resent your husband for watching it, but in order to be reconciled with your husband sexually, you must meet his needs, just as you want him to meet yours. The more the go "ape shit" the more he will distance himself from you.
Its not your fault he is not attached to you; not at all. But you need to try to understand him. Porn gives your husband release, a way to escape troubles, a place without judged or failure, pleasure.
His need for porn may be caused by something much deeper than simply not be attracted to you. If you are able to give him the emotional security and pleasure that porn gives him, then he will naturally return to wanting you again. I am NOT saying you need to turn into a porn star for your husband. I'm saying the he has emotional needs as well and you need to find out what those needs are before judging him because judging him will only push him away further.
I hope this has helped a little bit.
Faith
February 15, 2015 - 2:11pmThis Comment
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