Hello and thank you for sharing you concerns. I'd love to give you some helpful thoughts on the matter.
After reading your story, I noticed that perhaps your early concepts of having intercourse may be affecting your psychologically towards the subject. I notice a pattern of fear surrounding sex. This may spring from what you were told growing up: that sex is bad, sexual desires are sinful, you should feel guilty about having sex etc etc...
Please note that I am only suggesting causes not diagnosing you. But perhaps all these fears are now manifesting themselves and causing you to have trouble feeling comfortable with sexual intimacy.
You mentioned crying and panic. These suggest to me that it is not lack of physical desire but some belief about sex that frightens you.
You may want to explore your true personal beliefs and feelings about sex. Ask yourself questions like "do I feel like a bad person for enjoying sex" or "will I eventually be punished for having sex before marriage?"
These kinds of questions may help you discover what is holding you back from enjoying sexual intimacy with your husband.
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Hello and thank you for sharing you concerns. I'd love to give you some helpful thoughts on the matter.
After reading your story, I noticed that perhaps your early concepts of having intercourse may be affecting your psychologically towards the subject. I notice a pattern of fear surrounding sex. This may spring from what you were told growing up: that sex is bad, sexual desires are sinful, you should feel guilty about having sex etc etc...
Please note that I am only suggesting causes not diagnosing you. But perhaps all these fears are now manifesting themselves and causing you to have trouble feeling comfortable with sexual intimacy.
You mentioned crying and panic. These suggest to me that it is not lack of physical desire but some belief about sex that frightens you.
You may want to explore your true personal beliefs and feelings about sex. Ask yourself questions like "do I feel like a bad person for enjoying sex" or "will I eventually be punished for having sex before marriage?"
These kinds of questions may help you discover what is holding you back from enjoying sexual intimacy with your husband.
I wish you all the best on your journey.
Faith
April 18, 2015 - 9:30pmThis Comment
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