Hello and thank you for choosing EmpowHer,
I appreciate how you've handle this and you did right to express your needs. Now it is time for you to look a little deeper at why he is avoiding sex.
Causes for low libido fall into 2 categories: physical and mental.
-Depression is one of the #1 causes for low libido.
-Low Testosterone: a leading cause in men
-Psychological traumas
-Sexual orientation
I suspect that your husband doesn't have a problem with you. I think he is avoiding sex because of a personal issue, especially if he is watching gay porn. If he is depressed and perhaps even into men, then threatening to have sex with someone else isn't going to persuade him to have sex with you. If you do wish to be sexually intimate with him, you need to make it attractive for him. Do not make him feel in trouble. Recognize that he is probably struggling with serious issues he may be too scared to share with you. You have the power as his wife, to help him through the secret challenges he's facing; not only for his sake but also for your own advantage.
Faith
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Hello and thank you for choosing EmpowHer,
I appreciate how you've handle this and you did right to express your needs. Now it is time for you to look a little deeper at why he is avoiding sex.
Causes for low libido fall into 2 categories: physical and mental.
-Depression is one of the #1 causes for low libido.
-Low Testosterone: a leading cause in men
-Psychological traumas
-Sexual orientation
I suspect that your husband doesn't have a problem with you. I think he is avoiding sex because of a personal issue, especially if he is watching gay porn. If he is depressed and perhaps even into men, then threatening to have sex with someone else isn't going to persuade him to have sex with you. If you do wish to be sexually intimate with him, you need to make it attractive for him. Do not make him feel in trouble. Recognize that he is probably struggling with serious issues he may be too scared to share with you. You have the power as his wife, to help him through the secret challenges he's facing; not only for his sake but also for your own advantage.
September 20, 2015 - 5:10pmFaith
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