You are not being too sensitive!! We as women always think it's us. But, the truth be told there's always two people involved in a relationship and so both parties have to be able to participate, communicate and feel safe to share their feelings.
Rolling one's eyes while another is speaking or leaving the room while you're in mid-sentence is what I would consider passive aggressive behavior but I'm not a psychologist. For someone reason your husband is taking "something" out on you. What is the old adage? We go after the one's we are closest too? Painful to hear, but believe it to be true.
You sound like a kind and loving woman, who loves her husband dearly. I'm sure you want your marriage to work. But, you can't live in this state anymore. You have to get to the root of the problem.
Do you think you can get him to go see someone? Would be good for you to go together and maybe for him to go separately so he can share his feelings with someone else. A neutral third party. Marriage counseling is a great thing, if both people are willing to participate. If he's not, you may have to rethink your marriage. You can never threaten divorce though as that is the single worst thing one can do. Unless you truly want to be divorced you should never say it. It can literally kill a marriage.
We have Dr. Gail Gross as one of our Medical Board Advisors here on EmpowHER. We will send your question to her and ask her to please respond. She has given me great relationship advice over the years. We may even have some of her articles on EmpowHER on relationships and how to deal with marriages that are...well, let's say, challenging right now. Search around and see if you can find some of her articles on EmpowHER.
The one thing Dr. Gross would say is "mutuality" is critical. Both people have to come to the table as 50-50 partners and there always has to be mutual respect. Your husband has to have your back and you have to have his. Respect is critical. You may not always win an argument. But, it's never about winning or loosing.. It's about being able to share your feelings in an open, honest way where both parties listen and agree to disagree. Someone will always have to bend and it should be mutual.
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You are not being too sensitive!! We as women always think it's us. But, the truth be told there's always two people involved in a relationship and so both parties have to be able to participate, communicate and feel safe to share their feelings.
Rolling one's eyes while another is speaking or leaving the room while you're in mid-sentence is what I would consider passive aggressive behavior but I'm not a psychologist. For someone reason your husband is taking "something" out on you. What is the old adage? We go after the one's we are closest too? Painful to hear, but believe it to be true.
You sound like a kind and loving woman, who loves her husband dearly. I'm sure you want your marriage to work. But, you can't live in this state anymore. You have to get to the root of the problem.
Do you think you can get him to go see someone? Would be good for you to go together and maybe for him to go separately so he can share his feelings with someone else. A neutral third party. Marriage counseling is a great thing, if both people are willing to participate. If he's not, you may have to rethink your marriage. You can never threaten divorce though as that is the single worst thing one can do. Unless you truly want to be divorced you should never say it. It can literally kill a marriage.
We have Dr. Gail Gross as one of our Medical Board Advisors here on EmpowHER. We will send your question to her and ask her to please respond. She has given me great relationship advice over the years. We may even have some of her articles on EmpowHER on relationships and how to deal with marriages that are...well, let's say, challenging right now. Search around and see if you can find some of her articles on EmpowHER.
The one thing Dr. Gross would say is "mutuality" is critical. Both people have to come to the table as 50-50 partners and there always has to be mutual respect. Your husband has to have your back and you have to have his. Respect is critical. You may not always win an argument. But, it's never about winning or loosing.. It's about being able to share your feelings in an open, honest way where both parties listen and agree to disagree. Someone will always have to bend and it should be mutual.
Hope this helps. WIshing you well. Warmest, MKR
February 3, 2016 - 8:20amThis Comment
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