Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community.
If the relationship didn't involve abuse, I would say go for couples counseling, but your safety is of the utmost importance. More than the realationship.
I would however, urge you to seek support and counseling to help you deal with the changes and to begin the healing process for yourself.
You are the priority. Your health, your mind, your spirit must be rebuilt. Some times the worse thing for us to do is the easiest which is to go back to what's familiar. I challenge you to stop the cycle of abuse and invest in taking care of yourself. You deserve it.
Again, it may not be easy, but YOU are worth it.