Firstly, I want to tell you that if a relationship doesn't work out, you WILL get over it. Doesn't matter if you moved countries for someone. It may not seem so now, nor when going through it, but you will actually move on, especially when you're in your 20s. Life will soon take over. I've been there before, where I thought death would be better than separation but I was busy in my 20s, life took over and all was well. Heck, I could laugh about it pretty quickly!
Moving on to the porn - porn addiction is a very real thing and it sounds like your boyfriend, like any addict, is using as soon and as often as he can and then getting angry and defensive when caught. He doesn't seem to want to change or stop with the porn (and it does get weirder and weirder as time goes on in order to keep satisfying the "high" just like any other addiction) so the ball has to be in your court.
He has already told you where he stands - you accept this or you leave. So you know where you stand. Now it's up to you to accept the porn, or leave. It really does come down to that.
Best,
Susan
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Hello Anon
Thank you for writing.
Firstly, I want to tell you that if a relationship doesn't work out, you WILL get over it. Doesn't matter if you moved countries for someone. It may not seem so now, nor when going through it, but you will actually move on, especially when you're in your 20s. Life will soon take over. I've been there before, where I thought death would be better than separation but I was busy in my 20s, life took over and all was well. Heck, I could laugh about it pretty quickly!
Moving on to the porn - porn addiction is a very real thing and it sounds like your boyfriend, like any addict, is using as soon and as often as he can and then getting angry and defensive when caught. He doesn't seem to want to change or stop with the porn (and it does get weirder and weirder as time goes on in order to keep satisfying the "high" just like any other addiction) so the ball has to be in your court.
He has already told you where he stands - you accept this or you leave. So you know where you stand. Now it's up to you to accept the porn, or leave. It really does come down to that.
August 22, 2017 - 6:45amBest,
Susan
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