Thank you for your response!
First of all I obviously know that living together doesn't mean having sex all the time but just sharing everyday's good and bad things. It was just reference how ridiculous some of my mum's comments can be.
Yeah, maybe I am just not ready somehow. It's not like I obsessively want to have sex or anything, it was just bothering me because previously we would never even talk about this, we just had everything as it should be, we had intimate situations but were never going for trying to have sex. And through the time it just happened let's say that we were in the situaiton when we would have sex but I just didn't want to and since then it started being so strange. We talked about this and this topic just came alive. I have a feeling that now as we just talked about this, we don't mention this anymore but anyway it is in the air. Even tho my boyfriend claims that he is not thinking about this and ensures me that he doesn't think it's my fault or that he is not mad at me for anything - I feel that way and ask him about this sometimes. I know he is actually not blaiming me nor being upset about this but other part of me is just worried about this. Because of that I stopped wanting to come close to him and I avoid any intimate situations. It is really stupid and uncomfortable and I don't know how to deal with it. Of course in everyday life everything is as perfect as it was. But I just stopped "wanting" my boyfriend. I don't mean it in a dirty or something liek this way. Just in this normal way as every person in a relationship feels about his partner.
I am really grateful for being able to open about all this stuff.
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Thank you for your response!
August 22, 2017 - 2:42pmFirst of all I obviously know that living together doesn't mean having sex all the time but just sharing everyday's good and bad things. It was just reference how ridiculous some of my mum's comments can be.
Yeah, maybe I am just not ready somehow. It's not like I obsessively want to have sex or anything, it was just bothering me because previously we would never even talk about this, we just had everything as it should be, we had intimate situations but were never going for trying to have sex. And through the time it just happened let's say that we were in the situaiton when we would have sex but I just didn't want to and since then it started being so strange. We talked about this and this topic just came alive. I have a feeling that now as we just talked about this, we don't mention this anymore but anyway it is in the air. Even tho my boyfriend claims that he is not thinking about this and ensures me that he doesn't think it's my fault or that he is not mad at me for anything - I feel that way and ask him about this sometimes. I know he is actually not blaiming me nor being upset about this but other part of me is just worried about this. Because of that I stopped wanting to come close to him and I avoid any intimate situations. It is really stupid and uncomfortable and I don't know how to deal with it. Of course in everyday life everything is as perfect as it was. But I just stopped "wanting" my boyfriend. I don't mean it in a dirty or something liek this way. Just in this normal way as every person in a relationship feels about his partner.
I am really grateful for being able to open about all this stuff.
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