This does not seem like a healthy relationship. You are obviously not happy with how he treats you, or happy with yourself. I would never stay in such a relationship. Especially one where he likes seeing me with other men. Not sure what's going on with all that. But to each his own.
You need to be happy. You need to feel you matter. Most of all, you need to love and respect yourself enough to want a better life and relationship. To know you deserve it. But that has to come from within you.
Never think you can change a person. That is not your task. It's theirs. If they want to change. Some people won't or simply cannot change. Being abused (in the past) is no excuse for how he treats you. You shouldn't give him a pass because of that. It's what makes you stay - excusing his behavior - and he probably knows that.
Just remember, a relationship should bring you joy.
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Hello. Thank you for posting.
This does not seem like a healthy relationship. You are obviously not happy with how he treats you, or happy with yourself. I would never stay in such a relationship. Especially one where he likes seeing me with other men. Not sure what's going on with all that. But to each his own.
You need to be happy. You need to feel you matter. Most of all, you need to love and respect yourself enough to want a better life and relationship. To know you deserve it. But that has to come from within you.
Never think you can change a person. That is not your task. It's theirs. If they want to change. Some people won't or simply cannot change. Being abused (in the past) is no excuse for how he treats you. You shouldn't give him a pass because of that. It's what makes you stay - excusing his behavior - and he probably knows that.
Just remember, a relationship should bring you joy.
Helena
November 12, 2017 - 2:10pmThis Comment
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