Thank you for writing and I'm sorry you're going through this.
It sounds like this has been going on for a long time - it's a pity you got married without both of you working on this first.
We can't say why your husband is choosing masturbation over sex with you but I suspect he is watching porn on his phone while masturbating and this has taken over his life. Porn is seriously addictive.
But if he won't answer you truthfully or admit there is a problem, he'll keep blaming you - that you are nagging him, forcing the issue etc. That way he makes you think you're the problem, when you're not. This is a manipulative tool people use when they don't want their secrets known or their addictions made public.
You don't have to put up with this. Counseling for yourself may help lead you in the right direction.
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Hello Anon
Thank you for writing and I'm sorry you're going through this.
It sounds like this has been going on for a long time - it's a pity you got married without both of you working on this first.
We can't say why your husband is choosing masturbation over sex with you but I suspect he is watching porn on his phone while masturbating and this has taken over his life. Porn is seriously addictive.
But if he won't answer you truthfully or admit there is a problem, he'll keep blaming you - that you are nagging him, forcing the issue etc. That way he makes you think you're the problem, when you're not. This is a manipulative tool people use when they don't want their secrets known or their addictions made public.
You don't have to put up with this. Counseling for yourself may help lead you in the right direction.
We wish you the best and please keep us posted.
Best,
November 26, 2018 - 4:23amSusan
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