I can relate to your post. Many of us (myself included) fake orgasms so we can spare our man's feelings or because we feel there is something wrong with us if we don't orgasm through intercourse. But the truth is most women need constant clitoral stimulation. Its nothing to be feel ashamed about, just an anatomical reality.
In my relationships, I have found that if I praise him for what he does do right and then gently guide him and then lavish on the praise when he does it, he does what I need and gets better and better each time.
You are so brave to bring up this topic. That is what I love most about this site, we share honestly and can talk about subjects we could never talk about face to face.