I too am adopted and to top it off I am a Gay. Two topics far from being "Normal" growing up in the late 6o's though 80"s. I credit my parents for all the love and support they have given me and my sister who is also adpoted. We were raised to be respectful of everyone regardless what there situation is, where they come from or what color there skin was.
My parents went through 5 miscarriages in their first 7 years of marriage. They wanted kids more thatn life itself. So they went with the option of adopting. They first told my sister and I when we were old enough to comprehend where kids came from.
I do remember my Mom alwasy saying that our situation was necessary to be kept within the family. Back then adoption was not readily discussed as it is today. Our extended family new my sister and I were adopted and why. But as for friends... it was just kept under the carpet. I think I was in Jr. High or High School before I ever openly discussed it with friends.
I will tell you that I am so proud to be the daughter of my parents that I openly discuss adoption with all my friends especially my gay friends who want kids and who are in the process of adopting or who have adopted. I think it is the greatest gift you can give to a child or to yourself. There are so many young Moms out there who just aren't ready to be Moms. The best scenario if you can't raise a child is to give them up for adoption because there are so many couples, single parents, Gay and Straight willing to adopt for many positive reasons.
On the other subject of being Gay and coming out to my Hispanic,adopted parents (I am also Hispanic,) was the hardest thing I ever had to do. And it shouldn't have been. But again we are talking about what was considered normal in the past. It took me ten years of being out on my own before I ever braved telling my parents I was Gay. My biggest fear was I thought they would want to disown me. My parents are old school. I knew it wouldn't be easy for them to understand that being gay was not a choice. It is who I am. Why would I chose to go against the norm of society. I waited until I was almost 30 to tell them. Like expected they had a hard time with it at first. But they have come full circle with it. They know I have a great circle of friends who most of which are Gay. Many of whom are becoming adoptive parents. They just wish me the best and give me all their love and support. I would not trade my situation for anything in the world. I have never looked at my parents as anything other than my "Natural Parents" The only time I get reminded that I am adopted is when answering medical questions. I do not know the medical history of the biological mother/father. I have chosen to take whatever life has to offer. I take the necessary medical precautions. I go in for annual exams regularly. Sorry I was so long winded. These are two subjects I could go on for hours about.
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I too am adopted and to top it off I am a Gay. Two topics far from being "Normal" growing up in the late 6o's though 80"s. I credit my parents for all the love and support they have given me and my sister who is also adpoted. We were raised to be respectful of everyone regardless what there situation is, where they come from or what color there skin was.
My parents went through 5 miscarriages in their first 7 years of marriage. They wanted kids more thatn life itself. So they went with the option of adopting. They first told my sister and I when we were old enough to comprehend where kids came from.
I do remember my Mom alwasy saying that our situation was necessary to be kept within the family. Back then adoption was not readily discussed as it is today. Our extended family new my sister and I were adopted and why. But as for friends... it was just kept under the carpet. I think I was in Jr. High or High School before I ever openly discussed it with friends.
I will tell you that I am so proud to be the daughter of my parents that I openly discuss adoption with all my friends especially my gay friends who want kids and who are in the process of adopting or who have adopted. I think it is the greatest gift you can give to a child or to yourself. There are so many young Moms out there who just aren't ready to be Moms. The best scenario if you can't raise a child is to give them up for adoption because there are so many couples, single parents, Gay and Straight willing to adopt for many positive reasons.
On the other subject of being Gay and coming out to my Hispanic,adopted parents (I am also Hispanic,) was the hardest thing I ever had to do. And it shouldn't have been. But again we are talking about what was considered normal in the past. It took me ten years of being out on my own before I ever braved telling my parents I was Gay. My biggest fear was I thought they would want to disown me. My parents are old school. I knew it wouldn't be easy for them to understand that being gay was not a choice. It is who I am. Why would I chose to go against the norm of society. I waited until I was almost 30 to tell them. Like expected they had a hard time with it at first. But they have come full circle with it. They know I have a great circle of friends who most of which are Gay. Many of whom are becoming adoptive parents. They just wish me the best and give me all their love and support. I would not trade my situation for anything in the world. I have never looked at my parents as anything other than my "Natural Parents" The only time I get reminded that I am adopted is when answering medical questions. I do not know the medical history of the biological mother/father. I have chosen to take whatever life has to offer. I take the necessary medical precautions. I go in for annual exams regularly. Sorry I was so long winded. These are two subjects I could go on for hours about.
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