Hi Melissa,
It is scary to watch your child go through anything traumatic or painful, and the only thing that has helped me be able to mentally cope with this is knowing that every other mom and dad feel the same way. It helped me to talk about it with my mom friends (and, I originally wrote the article, which helped me, too).
The passing of time has helped me not worry so much, and to be able to "get over" the mental picture and endless worry. I now have a second son, and my first son (who had the seizures) has not had another one for over 2 years. However...he had a high fever last week (first time he's been sick in over a year), and my mind immediately goes "over the top" to him having a febrile seizure. With my second son, if he gets a high fever, I worry but not to the same extent. I think it's just called being a mom, and I know I am going to have other times when there is a playground accident, hurt feelings at school, him driving for the first time (he is only 4 years old!)...all of these experiences we have now are helping us learn how to cope with future stresses that are inevitable.
i read the best quote about having kids: it means giving your heart permission to walk around outside of your body. our hearts are going to be trampled on, hurt, broken...and hopefully also filled with love and overwhelming joy as our kids grow up.
Please keep us updated on your son. I was still unclear if his seizure was related to his high temperature, but he sounds like he has a very knowledgeable and caring mom! Take care of yourself, too!
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Hi Melissa,
It is scary to watch your child go through anything traumatic or painful, and the only thing that has helped me be able to mentally cope with this is knowing that every other mom and dad feel the same way. It helped me to talk about it with my mom friends (and, I originally wrote the article, which helped me, too).
The passing of time has helped me not worry so much, and to be able to "get over" the mental picture and endless worry. I now have a second son, and my first son (who had the seizures) has not had another one for over 2 years. However...he had a high fever last week (first time he's been sick in over a year), and my mind immediately goes "over the top" to him having a febrile seizure. With my second son, if he gets a high fever, I worry but not to the same extent. I think it's just called being a mom, and I know I am going to have other times when there is a playground accident, hurt feelings at school, him driving for the first time (he is only 4 years old!)...all of these experiences we have now are helping us learn how to cope with future stresses that are inevitable.
i read the best quote about having kids: it means giving your heart permission to walk around outside of your body. our hearts are going to be trampled on, hurt, broken...and hopefully also filled with love and overwhelming joy as our kids grow up.
Please keep us updated on your son. I was still unclear if his seizure was related to his high temperature, but he sounds like he has a very knowledgeable and caring mom! Take care of yourself, too!
June 5, 2011 - 9:50pmThis Comment
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