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I've had quite a bit of exposure to those with BIID lately thanks to some blog articles I wrote about my feelings on BIID. As someone in a wheelchair with an actual disability (I have Spinal Muscular Atrophy covered under Muscular Dystrophy and can no longer walk or stand), I find those with BIID to have more mental problems then they seem to be able to deal with, and there may be an underlying cause that makes them feel that they need to have their leg amputated, become paralyzed or even make themselves deaf.

From their own personal stories, many of these individuals were abused in their childhood and teenage years (sexually, physically and/or psychologically). Some have either alcoholic or drug addicted parents. Many are loners, though they might not be loners intentionally and most have self-confidence issues and depression. They get it in their mind that hacking off a limb or paralyzing themselves is the only way to make themselves better and though they may receive treatment, I don't believe that they are into that treatment, especially if a doctor doesn't tell them "yes, the only answer is amputation or paralysis". It is so ingrained in their mind that they are right in wanting to be disabled that there is no help for them until they actually want to try other methods.

What may be little known is that many of these individuals also get sexual gratification from the pretending of being disabled. One man writes about wearing diapers, because he dreams of being paralyzed. Since one of the side effects of paralysis is inability to control the bladder and bowels, this is something he does regularly while pretending. It also makes him sexually aroused to wear these diapers. His words, not mine.

Additionally, nearly every story of a BIID sufferer going out and pretending to be disabled by wheeling around in a wheelchair has them desperately seeking out people to see them and acknowledge them in the chair. They want to be seen as disabled, to have people in wheelchairs acknowledge them and accept them and if they don't get that their experience isn't as good. They crave it more and desire a better reaction and more acknowledgement the next time they're out in public in their chair.

With this in mind, it seems as though those with BIID find their pretending (and need to be disabled) as a way to fit in, be excepted, perhaps even fill a void in their life and they associate that void with wanting to be disabled, so they think their only "cure" is to make themselves that way.

August 14, 2008 - 6:25pm

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