Any number of the attributes on the list fit my spouse, but I've always chalked them up to having been badly raised by a mom who favored him the most and allowed him his spoiled brat behavior unchecked. He is a "Jekyll and Hyde," charming and charismatic - as long as he is the center of attention, and a total jerk when he doesn't get his way or the attention he thinks he deserves. As the middle child, he is the one who tries to please everyone, but to the point of actually being meddlesome.
So, why are we still together? Because his good qualities outweigh the negative, at least most of the time, haha! I'm sure he could say the same about me. I refer to him as "brilliant, but bonkers" - the brainiac who has zero common sense.
Frankly, my "narcissist" is really quite a nice guy underneath all his insecurities, and he makes me laugh.