Optimist, congratulations on taking steps to make your life a happier one. It's not uncommon for people to feel angry following a divorce and we can all become a little overwhelmed with life just from a general sense.
One of the things that has worked for me in dealing with emotions is writing about them. Have you written down exactly what's angering you? Once I come up with lists or scenarios, I try to assess whether each item on the list is in my control. If it is, then I make changes to make them less of an issue. Sometimes this can take hours but the time spent being proactive about my emotions (I think) has been a benefit to me in the long run.
I've also found that talking with friends and family is a big help. I try to keep it to a 10-minute maximum because being concise and controlled in my thoughts helps me control my emotions.
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Optimist, congratulations on taking steps to make your life a happier one. It's not uncommon for people to feel angry following a divorce and we can all become a little overwhelmed with life just from a general sense.
One of the things that has worked for me in dealing with emotions is writing about them. Have you written down exactly what's angering you? Once I come up with lists or scenarios, I try to assess whether each item on the list is in my control. If it is, then I make changes to make them less of an issue. Sometimes this can take hours but the time spent being proactive about my emotions (I think) has been a benefit to me in the long run.
I've also found that talking with friends and family is a big help. I try to keep it to a 10-minute maximum because being concise and controlled in my thoughts helps me control my emotions.
June 28, 2008 - 11:24amThis Comment
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