Barely no sex in our relationship yet he looks at porn?

He sounds awesome.

WELL I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME SITUATION I HAVE BEEN WITH MY PARTNER FOR 5 YRS AND WE LIVE TOGETHER..AND LATELY HES BEEN VERY DISTANT THERE IS NO INTIMACY FOR 3 MONTHS NOW AND I TRY TO INITIATE IT BUT HE SEEMS TO GIVE ME THE COLD SHOULDER AND EXCUSES LIKE HES TIRED OR WATEVER. MY PARTNER MAKES ME FEEL UNATTRACTED AND IF HE WANTS TO END IT HE NEEDS TO TELL ME THE TRUTH AS WELL INSTEAD OF LEADING ME ON!

Many of told me simliar advice like this. I suggested therapy again to him and he said no, we tried it once, we went 3 times, and he said it didnt help. Nothing is fixed in 3 times I told him. So to me that is like he doesnt care at all about this or is willing to try. I dont know what to do. I know not making a decision is a decision.... it's hard to say. I mean he is a nice guy, I live in his house, and we vested time into this house yet he doesnt show me any affection or attention. Ugh,..... not sure what to do...

I wanted to add more to this, we have been together about 5 years, he barely iniates sex with me, yet I found on the computer a history of him looking at porn. And it's frequent, yet I have to like beg him to pay me attention. I mean I dont get it. IM so mad and upset and feel so neglected. I mean it's hurtful when i try to advance on him and he says "im too tired" I think he tells me that I yell at him too much and it's a turn off. Hello! I dont yell at him that much, just it upsets me when he doesnt do more to help around house, so I get mad. And IM mad cause im frustratedt with him. He doesnt show me any attention ever. He can plan things with his friends but not me. It's really upsetting.