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Were both 19 years old n we have a daughter together. our sex life was fine I never noticed that he would watch porn or naked girls I would have never imagine that from him
I slowly began to find gazines hidden in my room because he knows I don't like that.he told me he did not watch or liked that stuff now he's watching videos n naked girl pictures I feel that maybe he's doing that because he's not attracted to me ive asked him n he says he is n that he loves me n doesn't know why he's doing it but he does it behind my back while I'm at work
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I'm no expert, but you have to believe me, there's about a 99% chance that it's not about you. Like, at all. I've read some reputable articles about it, either in Reader's Digest or some kind of prominent magazine in psychology, but I can't remember the exact articles so I can't give you a link or any material. What I can recall is that almost all men do this, and for almost all cases it is normal and pushed by natural male biological drive. Most likely it's not that he finds you unattractive or that he's not satisfied by your sexual relationship. It's just how men are.
I'm sorry that you feel this way. The best thing you can do is to sit down and talk to your guy about this. You have to be open with your feelings--and with his as well. Try to understand him and come up with a reasonable compromise.
I wish you all the best in this issue.
March 8, 2012 - 3:31amThis Comment
I FEEL FOR YOU I GO THROUGH THE SAME EXACT THING WITH MY BF WE HAVE A DAUGHTER TOGETHER,I KNEW HE WATCHED BEFORE LIKE EVERY NOW AND THEN,BUT AS THE YEARS WENT BY IT GOT WORSE IVE FOUND HUNDREDS OF DOWNLOADS ON MY COMPUTER AND MAGS EVERYWHERE.I FEEL THAT HE'S COMFORTABLE WITH ME BUT NOT COMPLETELY ATTRACTED TO ME ANYMORE.IT'S RUINING OUR RELATIONSHIP.MY POINT IS THERE ARE MORE WOMEN WHO DEAL WITH THIS,TRUELY YOU CAN EITHER DEAL WITH IT OR EXPRESS YOUR FEELING,IF HE REALLY CARES HE'LL STOP IF NOT ITS PRETTY MUCH HIM CHOOSEN SOME RANDOM WOMEN OVER YOUR FAMILY...TAKE SOME TIME AND THINK OF EACH SENARIO AND WILL YOU BE WILLING OR EVEN WANT TO DO WHATS NECESSARY DEPENDING ON HE CHOICE...IF NOT YOU CAN GIVE OFF THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU'LL JUST SAY ONE THING AND DO NOTHING....I HOPE THE BEST YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
March 7, 2012 - 9:59pmThis Comment
m3 - You seem to be asking a couple of questions. 1. Why do men do this? and 2) Are you the cause of this behavior? I think it will help to have the perspective of other women. Many men do this and other women face the same issue, you're not alone. Please see the following thread, which has drawn a high volume of comments. https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/boyfriend-masturbates-even-though-haveing-willing-girlfriend
May 18, 2010 - 4:50pmThis Comment