Yes, there is life after abuse.
I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years. I was told if I tried to leave he'd kill me. But when I realized the impact it was having on my children, even though I didn't think he was actually abusing them, it helped give me the courage to leave. After about 13 years and a lot of hard work, I see myself as a thriver, not just a survivor. Three years ago I met a wonderful man who is just the opposite of an abuser. (I was on my own for about 10 years) So yes, there is life after abuse.
Today I went to counseling at the Women's Resource Center, a place for survivors of sexual assault and abuse and domestic violence. I feel like I am on the right path. After one session with the wrong counselor this was so so much different. She was so encouraging and easy to talk to. She really gets the situation and was very helpful. I think this is the place for me and I am looking forward to being able to move forward in my life.May 6, 2011 - 7:21pm
I hope it all works out well for you.April 22, 2011 - 9:55am
Yes but he is quite elusive about work, lots of off the books stuff. I am going over to the court today to find out what papers I need to fill. Thanks you for your reply and I am going to my first counseling session on Tuesday.April 22, 2011 - 8:11am
Can you garnish his wages without an attorney? That's what I had to do. Fortunately I don't have him in my life anymore, so I don't have to deal with him.
PTSD is one of the worst things about surviving something like this, but with the help of a counselor you'll be ok. Somedays will be bad and some will be good. There were days where I had to take it one minute at a time, you can do this.April 22, 2011 - 4:19am
I was married to an abuser for 20 years. I am trying to find a life for myself but I am going through some PTSD trauma right now. I promised myself to get through this and that has prompted me to find groups like this online to talk about it. Part of the problem is not being able to talk it out. I finally made an appointment with a counselor today so I think I have been making some positive decisions. I know there is still a lot of work to do. I also have fibromyalgia and don't feel well a lot of the time. My ex, even though remarried finds ways to insinuate himself in my life and now has me to the point where I must bring him to court if I want to collect any of the spousal support he owes me. If I could afford a lawyer it would be easier but I have to do it all myself. I am glad you sound so positive because it gives me hope. Thanks
That's exciting to hear. It's always nice to find someone who can be supportive.May 7, 2011 - 7:08am