omg i have this same EXACT problem. I am 19 and my fiance just turned 30. we have been together for about 4 years and we have a 4 month old baby boy. I did not recieve any strechmarks or weight gain from my pregnancy. I look the same as i did before i got pregnant. I weigh 119 pounds. so i dont think it is the way i look. and i have asked him if he did not find me attractive anymore and he said "it's not that". I ask him why we dont have sex and he always has a lame exuse like "im tired i had to work today","today is my only day off and i just want to relax" or "i just dont feel like it". I dont understand. a year ago our sexlife was the best thing ever! but now i dont get ANYTHING. No kissing, maybe a hug, No sex, ABOLUTLY NOTHING. I try to kiss him on the cheek or cuddle him and he pushes me away. I have tried EVERYTHING>from: dressing up sexy and doing things for him that i thought would make him happy, to literally clibing on top of him and ripping his clothes off. i dont know what to do i am just so hurt that things are the way they are now. it is quite sad. He looks at me as if i am stupid for asking. I dont understand what it could be. he does not seem depressed about anything. it just makes no sense at all. i hope something changes because my heart is just breaking day by day knowing that he doest not want to have any intimacy at all in our relationship. i cry all the time because i dont know what else to do. cant someone help me?

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Hey is your boyfriend a closed person? if he is then it will explain a bit. He might feel too confident with himself in bed. And how long have you been dating? If it is a new relationship then confidence might be an issue he has. I would suggest a self-estime boost during sex would be a good approach. Tell him how sexy he is and what not. I beleive if he feels more confident about himself affectionally the more he will open up to you in the way you want. I use to be like that, I am a very closed person I do everything for her, but when it came to those little things she liked i failed horribly she would tell me about it and i would try but it just did not stick. And also past relationship might be a cause, if in his past he was not affectionate and it worked for him he is just apply it on you as well. Try to study him a bit more and see some pattern in when he treats you "like gold" there might be some clues.

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