As a 20-year-old college student, most people don’t take me seriously when I say I don’t want children. Then again, there are many 20 year olds who already have children or are vigorously planning on having children within the next year or two, so why shouldn’t I be taken seriously?
Looking at myself, I have no actual desire to have children and don’t think I would be a great mother at all. I have depression, which definitely would complicate things, and I am a very busy person. I barely have time to spend with friends and family, let alone taking care of children. And I don’t plan on slowing down any time soon.
With all that being said, there are many reasons why women decide not to have children. Because there are so many reasons, there will be a couple parts to this article.
The one odd reason I brought up is depression. Though many people might not consider this reason, it is substantial. For women who have depression, pregnancy can upset the hormonal balance even more and possibly cause a deeper depression than before. Women without regular depression can get postpartum or perinatal depression, so imagine what it would be like to be regularly depressed and then become pregnant.
Depression during pregnancy can cause problems with the pregnancy or delivery, including a premature birth and/or a baby with an unhealthy weight, according to www.womenshealth.gov. For those with postpartum depression, the baby may be neglected. Besides what depression can do to a baby, the mother can suffer greatly. Depression during and after pregnancy can lead to harmful habits that can hurt the mother and baby. For example, the mother might not sleep well, eat poorly, miss health appointments, lack energy and abuse alcohol and drugs (besides the regular symptoms and consequences of depression). Those with other mental disorders may have similar problems during and after pregnancy.
Another reason women may choose to not have children is because they don’t want to change their lifestyle. In fact, this seems to be a main reason, at least for women in several articles I have read. One opinion article by Polly Vernon states the above. She says, “I explained that I like my life as it is, my lifestyle, my career.” She also adds that “I explained that I like the potential of my childless existence: to travel, sleep, read, drink, watch HBO box sets, have feckless fun.” It’s true that deciding not to have children is one less responsibility to worry about. However, just because a woman decides to not have children does not mean that she is not the responsible type or is the selfish type. As Polly Vernon says in another column, “It's my experience that parenthood doesn't make anyone less selfish. Humans simply extend the sphere of their selfishness when they have kids…”
An article from www.divinecaroline.com gives “she is too focused on her career” as a reason for not having children. A career is considered part of a person’s lifestyle. An especially good example is when a woman is in a high-paying, high profile position. Starting a family would most likely mean she would have to give that up.
Sources:
http://www.womenshealth.gov/FAQ/depression-pregnancy.cfm
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/jun/14/polly-vernon-childlessness-cameron-diaz-babies
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/feb/08/motherhood-children-babies1
http://www.divinecaroline.com/22126/84463-some-don-t-children