I am trying to work out an 8 year old on and off a relationship. We first dated for a couple of years then moved in together. We lived together for some years, but we started having problems and I moved out. For the next three years we have ramained friends and even tried to see each other romanticaly again but, we have failed each time. We are now going through another one of those stages were we get really close but, I am affraid we are going to be hurt again.
For some reason he is not able to (or does not want) to have sex with me. We started having that problem when we lived together and I believe it was one of the main reasons why our relationship did not work out. Of course we had all the problems that a normal couple has. But the sex thing was something that I could never figured out.
Only now after so many years I am able to talk to him without anger or resentment and he tells me that he does not why he can't have sex with me and he has confessed to be able to have sex with other women. I knew the later because we have been apart for long periods of time and I have not had sex with him for more than three years. Writting the later mades me feel stupid because it sounds as it is obvious that he is not into me romanticaly but, he swears that he is.
We love each other very much, I know this for a fact. I have asked him to be truth to himself and me and admit that his loves towards me is not the romantic type but, he says it is but can not explain why he can't have sex with me.
I know there isn't enough information for you to make an accurate opinion but, is it possible that he has some pshycolgical issue that won't allow him to give up entirely to our relationship?
He is older than me for more than ten years, has never been married and very affraid of cmmitment, please help.
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