I have been married 7 mos. to a great guy,, our sex lately has been great but I want more out of it and am unsure how to really ask him. I have dropped hints, written sexy notes but I don't think he is getting it.I want him to be dominating in the bedroom, not bondage or cruelty, just powering controlling and some spanking. How do I get it across without sounding or coming across as a freaky? I don't think this is wrong as long as both partners agree to it.