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I want my husband to be sexually dominating in the bedroom

By January 13, 2010 - 6:01am
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I have been married 7 mos. to a great guy,, our sex lately has been great but I want more out of it and am unsure how to really ask him. I have dropped hints, written sexy notes but I don't think he is getting it.I want him to be dominating in the bedroom, not bondage or cruelty, just powering controlling and some spanking. How do I get it across without sounding or coming across as a freaky? I don't think this is wrong as long as both partners agree to it.

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You're absolutely right--there is nothing wrong with what you are asking for. Sometimes dropping hints may work but many times it's best to just be straight-forward with your partner because you never know if he feels like maybe you may not like rough sex--communication is key. You can either bring up sexual fantasies or sexual likes and dislikes one day or you can wait until you're having sex and simply say what you want as you're having sex. It is entirely normal to let your partner know what satisfies you and what doesn't. Of course by letting him know what you don't like you don't want to insult him or hurt his feelings just be open and truthful. You guys are married now and it seems very appropriate to be able to communicate openly about sex.

Good Luck!


January 13, 2010 - 6:19am
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