My husband and I are trying to revive our marriage after being apart for 4 years. For a long time, we had a great sex life, but children and jobs diminished it somewhat over the years. I had an extensive illness 10 years ago, but, thankfully, recovered. However, after that, he just seemed to lose interest in me physically. He had an affair with one of our friends, and it was devastating to me. We tried to get together, but just didn't have the tools. ( For a long time, I thought it was my body, but no longer do. Even though I'm older than he is, lI look younger and have had two relationships, each with a healthy sex life. Frankly, I don't know if my age has anything to do with it or not. We recently went on a vacation together to see if we could reconnect. We had a great time..laughed, talked, enjoyed the sights, but he wasn't interested in sex. He admits that his relationships while we were apart were sexually fine. He says that he wants passion, but there are no sparks. He says he loves me, and I believe he does. He's the one, in fact, who suggested getting back together. On the other hand, he doesn't seem motivated to get together often enough to work on the marriage. (He lives several states away.) I've known and loved him for 25 years, but I'm having doubts that he's committed to this. I'm also concerned that I'm opening up my heart only to be hurt again. I just need some objectivity at this point. I would so love to put our marriage back together, but I know it takes work. I think he's simply waiting to "feel the spark" again.