I am a 35 year old woman and my husband is the same age. Before, I have to push him away when it came to sex, and now he will not ever initiate sex. He says its because he is stressed and tired at his job which I believe, but that doesn't help me. I am 7 months pregnant, and I felt he was forced to have sex with me a couple of times because I wanted a baby. He is affectionate in other ways such as hugs and treating almost like a daughter or little sister. We do have some other issues, he comes from a broken home with no parent communication role model.
I blame myself because I feel like maybe i pushed him a way too much when we were younger, but lately I have been asking him for it and he is saying he is too tired. A month ago I found pronography on the computer, so I know that he is still interested in the idea of sex, but just not in actually doing it.
I am at a loss, and with a child on the way, I feel like I can't leave. And I think of having affairs all the time.