I have been with boyf for 3 years and we had great sex in the beginning. I always initiated it and two years ago I decided I wanted him to start initiating it. He didnt want to and we discussed it, he said he didnt know why he didnt want to. Now on average we have sex once a month and that is because I have iniated it. He says he enjoys it and its great and why dont we do it more often??? My problem is that I dont feel desired, wanted or needed. I dont get presents or thoughtful things from him, I dont feel particularly special and if we at least had sex it would make me feel a bit more womanly. Another problem is that now Im beginning to lose interest in sex and i dont really want it anymore. We are due to get married in 11 months and Im having feelings that marriage is not right for me, as I am not 100% happy with the relationship. Everything else is perfect, we are best friends, we laugh all the time and can talk about everything. Its just the sex. Any ideas would be appreciated.