I am 24 and he is 47. We have been together for about a year and a half, living together for a year. Before anyone comments on the age thing, know that we love each other very much, and if anyone were to see us together they wouldn't think a thing of it -we fit :) The reason I include our ages is that I wonder if that is the reason for the decline?
We used to have sex everyday, now it's about once a week. It is really taking an axe to my self confidence. I have tried initiating things. I have dropped hints like bombs. For example I asked him to bring me home batteries for my 'toys'
He asked me why?... and I told him it's because I'm not getting enough from him...
I have gone about it in nicer ways too, I don't get it?! A vibrator is not an acceptable substitue! I want to make love, share love, be loved! I've tried being naughty too... I've tried letting my gaurd down and doing freakier things in the bedroom -lol. I know his ex was a real skank. I thought maybe if I let loose a bit he would be more interested... nothing is working...
It's not the actual act that is the problem, we do fabulously there.
It is getting things going. He never wants to. He never reaches for me. It makes me want to cry even when I write this now. Last night his lack of intrest made me so mad I got up, and went to sleep on the couch :(
What is causing this?
I keep thinking he is cheating on me. I really don't think he is. He is such a good man. I have been betrayed by every other guy I have every been with though. I feel like if he is not interested in me he must be interested in someone else.
I am an attractive women, and I have been willing to try whatever, I just don't get it.
How do I get him to want me -the way I want him?