Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over four years. All this time we have not had sex. I used tampons a couple times then when i tried removing one once it hurt so bad I never used them again. We have tried multiple times, but as soon as he puts his penis I, I lose my sex drive, I'm scared for what's to come, because in the past it has hurt so bad when we have tried. It's really taking a toll on our relationship and I want to be able to do this. Anyone have the same experience or have any ideas. Someone said take vicodin beforehand, which I am willing to do at this poing.