I guess the best place to start is at the beginning. I am 23, a college grad and a full time teacher. My fiance is 24 and completing his last year in college. We met in college and for 1 year we were just friends, I didn't even know that he liked me. Finally one day he asked me out on a date and we have been together for 2 years now. At the beginning of our relationship I made it clear that I wanted to wait for sex (I was not a virgin) I just didn't want to rush into sex. He said he was fine with it, but later I found out that he wasn't because he told his sister about it and she decided it would be a good idea to talk to me about it. Fast forward a few months, we finally had sex, and it was great. We had sex everyday! After a year of being together we moved in together. Sex started to diminish a little after that. It went from everyday, to every other day, to once a week.
After I graduated we moved 50 miles north of where we were before (his suggestion) shortly after the move I started teaching. (I should mention that he commuted 50 miles south for school 3 times a week and 20 miles north for work 4 times a week) He works as well, but right now I am the primary bread winner. He works enough to pay his car note ($300) and help with a few things here and there, but as for the major things i.e rent, light bill, internet and cable bill- I pay those. We have been living in this new apartment for all of 4 months and during that time we have sex maybe 5-8 times total (And I am being generous with that number). It's very frustrating for me because I now have a high sex drive and he doesn't. He does not want sex at all! I buy sexy lingerie and he simply tells me that it looks nice. (who does that?) I try to talk to him about it, but he says it's not me it's him, he says that he is going through a phase right now where he doesn't want to have sex at all. When I suggest getting a vibrator for myself, he gets angry ( I guess that is a little selfish of me) but what am I to do? I cook, I clean, I work full time and I try to look nice yet nothing. Sigh. I need some advice. So unbiased advice. Am I doing something wrong?