During a class I was giving on "Letting Go of Self-Doubt," Pat S. wanted to know why unforeseen events, or even the threat of an unforeseen event, made her feel so uncomfortable. Following are the key questions and answers from our discussion:
Q: Why am I so easily upset by the unexpected?
A: If you're interested enough in this question, we can go into it. The answer may surprise you.
Q: Yes, I really want to know why changes in my life, at work or at home, make me so uneasy.
A: Good. Then let's start by clearing up the initial mental mistake that is at the root of your problem. It's not really you who feels shaky when situations shift without warning.
Q: If it's not me, then who is it?
A: Who you think you are; that's what feels threatened. But you do not have to go on feeling afraid. Beginning right now, with some patient self-investigation and the aid of a few higher facts, you will discover that you are not who you think you are. This is one of the most exciting and relief-filled self-findings you can make about yourself.
Living from our present life-level, we are almost always nervous about what's going on around us. Why? Because we still live with the mistaken notion that who we are is somehow affected or determined by what happens to us.
For example, say you walk outside and scuff a new pair of shoes. Why should there be pain in this unless we have literally mistaken ourselves for being a shoe! Obviously, we are not a piece of polished leather. Hopefully, we can laugh at ourselves here by seeing how silly and self-compromising this kind of unconscious suffering is. And yet, putting aside this humor that our presently confused mind is apt to cause, there is nothing funny about thinking that you are going to lose yourself if someone leaves you. Just ask anyone who has ever gone through the nightmare of seeing a loved one walk away.
This is why we are going to leave behind us, once and for all, this threatened nature of ours. By placing ourselves in the care of real Intelligence, we can learn to let go of whatever it may be that has frightened us up to now. That's right.