Here is an amazing higher instruction that can help you step beyond yourself: "Walk away from the mental 'how' into the spiritual Now."
This secret instruction deserves our close attention. Its real value, like that of a priceless jewel, is best appreciated when seen from every angle. Just as it is the nature of such a rare jewel to reflect its inner brilliance in all directions, so is it the nature of this special instruction to light your way once you have unlocked its secret. Here is one of its keys. The journey outside of yourself doesn't take you to a place, but to the realization that who you really are lives above the world of thoughts and feelings. The everyday mental life which naturally includes asking "how" has its practical place in the world of auto mechanics, building a house or running a computer. These kinds of tasks are governed by the mental life. Living and working in this physical world, it is necessary to ask "how" in order to learn to "do."
However, when it comes to learning how to live above and outside of our self, the same mental life that can safely deliver men to the moon cannot take us any higher or further than its loftiest thought. A thought is never the thing. In other words, it is impossible to think yourself outside yourself.
If we want to know "how" to proceed with our inner-journey, we must understand that even the finest mental life cannot deliver us beyond what are its own inherent limitations. From this unique inner-vantage point we can see that something altogether new, some unthinkable leap is needed if we are to successfully bridge the gap between this limited mental world and the new life beyond our selves.
As you begin to realize the true restrictions of living from a thought-dominated self, you will no longer ask "how" because part of your new realization will include the understanding that this habitual question of "how" to get outside of yourself is actually arising from the same life-level you are trying to leave. At this important stage of your inner-development there may be times when it will seem to you as though there is no way out.