Hi all,
I am not an expert on polygamy but I am a woman, not a little girl, and have been in many situations and have been close to other women in many situations where the drive on the part of the man was to be with multiple partners.
I don't agree that sex has nothing to do with polygamy. I am entitled to my opinion. To assume that I don't understand that it's an actual lifestyle that people engage in for complex and varied reasons is insulting. Also, to assume that I don't have a background in reading and watching the news about how devastating plural marriage can be to women is also a false assumption.
In fact, 'Big Love' brought many real life 'compounds' to the fore of the news for quite sometime. There were news programs about underage teenage girls being denied their education and being coerced into marrying elderly and sometimes abusive men.
This is a real issue. Monogamy has been failing in this country as is evident by the glaringly high rate of divorce. My point in writing this article was to deeply entertain the idea that part of what keeps us falling in apart in monogamy is our denial of our adulterous urges, and that as mature, secure women, we would do ourselves and our mates a favor in bringing some of these thoughts and feelings out of the closet and into our intimate lives.
One comment says, "Implying that bringing sexual fantasy in your (monogamous) bedroom has anything to do with polygamy is puzzling at best."
That is a strange statement. Our senses are titillated by polygamy and, I would argue, by polyandry. And, in my experience, love and marriage and child rearing and devotion have very much to do with sex.
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Hi all,
I am not an expert on polygamy but I am a woman, not a little girl, and have been in many situations and have been close to other women in many situations where the drive on the part of the man was to be with multiple partners.
I don't agree that sex has nothing to do with polygamy. I am entitled to my opinion. To assume that I don't understand that it's an actual lifestyle that people engage in for complex and varied reasons is insulting. Also, to assume that I don't have a background in reading and watching the news about how devastating plural marriage can be to women is also a false assumption.
In fact, 'Big Love' brought many real life 'compounds' to the fore of the news for quite sometime. There were news programs about underage teenage girls being denied their education and being coerced into marrying elderly and sometimes abusive men.
This is a real issue. Monogamy has been failing in this country as is evident by the glaringly high rate of divorce. My point in writing this article was to deeply entertain the idea that part of what keeps us falling in apart in monogamy is our denial of our adulterous urges, and that as mature, secure women, we would do ourselves and our mates a favor in bringing some of these thoughts and feelings out of the closet and into our intimate lives.
One comment says, "Implying that bringing sexual fantasy in your (monogamous) bedroom has anything to do with polygamy is puzzling at best."
That is a strange statement. Our senses are titillated by polygamy and, I would argue, by polyandry. And, in my experience, love and marriage and child rearing and devotion have very much to do with sex.
Thanks,
June 15, 2009 - 7:15pmAimee
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