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Thanks for your comment! I think you point out a good part of this; it is absolutely possible to become fascinated or intrigued by something emotionally/physically/sexually and not want it in your life and still have sympathy, empathy and deep concern for those who may not be experiencing the benefits or positive aspects of that situation.

You can be a feminist and a political activist and a role model for young girls, and a knowledgeable, informed and caring woman and still get "turned on" by a variety of thoughts, images, ideas.

To say that is wrong is to really dial women back to the Victorian Era when even thoughts of sex were deemed evil, or certain African tribes where the ritual mutilation of women to insure their lack of sexual pleasure is alive, still, to this day.

I also think that women need their fantasies in order to keep their love alive, just as men do, and that if we were less upset by our own "shadows" and fantasies, perhaps we would act out less in detrimental ways.