I couldn't agree with you more. I have felt the same things - especially now that I'm 40 and looking toward aging gracefully... I absolutely want someone to accept me as I am more than ever and also want to be able to have the same ability to just experience the joys of loving someone without him being a "certain way." The kids, if you have them, also become the focus and you really need that stability and consistency in your relationship to give them what they need.
Thanks for your great insights!