First of all, thank you all SO MUCH for being such thoughtful, caring women! The fact that you all even bother to read and reflect and respond to this article is so incredibly wonderful.
Secondly, I am SO SORRY if I have offended anyone with the What Not To Wear Analogy - let me explain how I came up with this:
* First, I think that show is funny and in so many ways I'm so amazed that, as a woman, I have so many people to turn to when I'm concerned about my fashion sense, my hair or my makeup and SO FEW to turn to - so little displayed in real life or in the media - about internal operations - emotions, the complexities of relationships. So I was coming from a place of trying to be a little bit tongue in cheek and sort of funny (sorry if it fell flat) and also point out albeit in a round about way that we have all these shows and information about what or what not to do about fashion but very little in the way of real, deeper problems.
* Second - thanks SO MUCh to Susan Cody - I really appreciate you're trying to represent the analogy and put me back on the side of the women in this forum. BECAUSE I WRITE FOR YOU and FOR ME and FOR US - I am never happy if I feel I am alienating a woman.
* Third - to the author of the comment about straight versus lesbian or gay breakups - I agree with you. As a straight woman I am coming from that perspective and it is narrow compared with all the variations which exist. Thank you for pointing out the differences and maybe I will research an article which expands on this.
Finally, every woman is unique, special and important and valuable. Every woman has the right to deal with her break up in her own way and in her own time. This article was merely a window into some wisdom that I've heard about, read about and acquired myself over the course of my lifetime - it is by no means the only route to healthy living.
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First of all, thank you all SO MUCH for being such thoughtful, caring women! The fact that you all even bother to read and reflect and respond to this article is so incredibly wonderful.
Secondly, I am SO SORRY if I have offended anyone with the What Not To Wear Analogy - let me explain how I came up with this:
* First, I think that show is funny and in so many ways I'm so amazed that, as a woman, I have so many people to turn to when I'm concerned about my fashion sense, my hair or my makeup and SO FEW to turn to - so little displayed in real life or in the media - about internal operations - emotions, the complexities of relationships. So I was coming from a place of trying to be a little bit tongue in cheek and sort of funny (sorry if it fell flat) and also point out albeit in a round about way that we have all these shows and information about what or what not to do about fashion but very little in the way of real, deeper problems.
* Second - thanks SO MUCh to Susan Cody - I really appreciate you're trying to represent the analogy and put me back on the side of the women in this forum. BECAUSE I WRITE FOR YOU and FOR ME and FOR US - I am never happy if I feel I am alienating a woman.
* Third - to the author of the comment about straight versus lesbian or gay breakups - I agree with you. As a straight woman I am coming from that perspective and it is narrow compared with all the variations which exist. Thank you for pointing out the differences and maybe I will research an article which expands on this.
Finally, every woman is unique, special and important and valuable. Every woman has the right to deal with her break up in her own way and in her own time. This article was merely a window into some wisdom that I've heard about, read about and acquired myself over the course of my lifetime - it is by no means the only route to healthy living.
Thanks again for your insights.
Aimee
March 23, 2010 - 12:42pmThis Comment
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