you sound like a very caring person....almost where you sacrifice your own wellness. I hope i am not being too harsh because you sincerely sound like you have a great caring heart.
I been there myself too. We love these people but after counseling I had to face that they like their lives the way they are since they never seek out help or sincerely try to get better.
My little sister has ...we guess, borderline personality. She can be the best sweetest sister...but she also can be very manipulating. I always assumed she learned that behavior from my parents who also are manipulating.
But she also is anorexia...was down to 90lbs where she looked like either someone at end stage of HIV or cancer...bones sticking out. She wear baggy clothes to hide it and you know...she still thought she was fat!
She also cuts herself....which i also did when i had break down..my parents believe her lies..
we have not seen her for years....and i miss her greatly. it is her choice. In one way i think she is the smartest since my family is so sick...my dad is pedophile, my mom stayed with him when she found out he abused my older sister and i... he resents me because i broke the silence and told truth.
So i think Rosa advice is wise...take time for yourself now...i say even get some counseling and find out why you put her over yourself so often? How can you get in healthy relationship with yourself and than others....it is so much nicer when it is give/take equal relationship...i am doing much the same work on myself now.
Good luck and i bet once you take care of yourself ..you find someone that really loves you for you.
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you sound like a very caring person....almost where you sacrifice your own wellness. I hope i am not being too harsh because you sincerely sound like you have a great caring heart.
October 20, 2011 - 10:26amI been there myself too. We love these people but after counseling I had to face that they like their lives the way they are since they never seek out help or sincerely try to get better.
My little sister has ...we guess, borderline personality. She can be the best sweetest sister...but she also can be very manipulating. I always assumed she learned that behavior from my parents who also are manipulating.
But she also is anorexia...was down to 90lbs where she looked like either someone at end stage of HIV or cancer...bones sticking out. She wear baggy clothes to hide it and you know...she still thought she was fat!
She also cuts herself....which i also did when i had break down..my parents believe her lies..
we have not seen her for years....and i miss her greatly. it is her choice. In one way i think she is the smartest since my family is so sick...my dad is pedophile, my mom stayed with him when she found out he abused my older sister and i... he resents me because i broke the silence and told truth.
So i think Rosa advice is wise...take time for yourself now...i say even get some counseling and find out why you put her over yourself so often? How can you get in healthy relationship with yourself and than others....it is so much nicer when it is give/take equal relationship...i am doing much the same work on myself now.
Good luck and i bet once you take care of yourself ..you find someone that really loves you for you.
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