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Am I asking for "sex" too much?

By October 22, 2010 - 6:49am
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My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 months. I've tried to find other articles to answer my problem, but nothing fits my situation. We are in a very long distance relationship and we both hate it but we both feel that we are worth waiting for. Because we are long distance we have cyber sex (with cam) and phone sex to satisfy ourselves because neither of us want the other seeing someone else. For the first 5 months of our relationship we had "sex" every day and sometimes up to six times. In the past few months we've gone to just once a day to once every other day and now to once a week. I have a high sex drive and I want him constantly. I feel deprived and I've tried talking to him about it, but he just says he doesn't want our relationship to be solely about sex. He thinks that I don't value our time together because he wants to talk more so I spend time with him and we talk for hours, but when I try to initiate "sex" he rejects me. The rejection hurts more than anything. He tells me that I'm beautiful and that he is very sexually attracted to me, but he keeps telling me no. He says he's not in the mood or doesn't want to, but then he tells me that he already masturbated once during the day and that makes me feel like I'm not doing something right. I feel unattractive and unwanted, and I'm just not sure what to do any more. I've tried dressing up in lingerie and trying different things but it doesnt work. He says that it'll be different when he can touch me, and that hurts me more than anything. He can't touch me now and there is nothing I can do physically that can turn him on. I feel helpless.

Last night he knew there was something bothering me and I told him I was sad because are rarely sexual any more and that I feel like I have to beg for it and it makes me feel unsexy. He got angry and said that he couldn't believe that we were having this argument. He says he feels like I'm pressuring him, and I feel terrible about it, but I have needs to! Now I feel like I'm a sex maniac or something. Help?

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