Boyfriend Troubles

Hi Claire,
Thank you for sharing your story. My main question is of course as you said, Why are you staying with him? There is one main thing about relationships that I learned over the years which is there is really no way of trying to change someone. The other person certainly needs to want to change. If you cannot deal with the fact that he is probably cheating on you, I would say it would be a good time to move on.

Keeping a person locked up in a house since you don’t trust him will not work. I am sure you already see that. But, he certainly should be attentive to the fact that he is not trustworthy and if he continues to not show up at home and goes out all the time, I would assume that you are probably putting yourself back into a cheating relationship. From your story, it is all the tell-tale signs.
You’re the only person that can make the decision to either deal with the cheating or move on. You are very young and there are many fish in the sea (sorta speak). Try to remember that changing may not happen…good luck. Please keep us updated.
Missie