I live with fiancee, who I love deeply. Lately he's been dealing with massive stomach issues - and is already type 1 diabetic. He is in pain most of the day - to the point where he can't work, so we're forced to relocate across the country to where his family is (I don't mind the move, but I have other frustrations, read on..)
My issue is that I feel like I'm doing everything - which, I technically am. I understand he doesn't feel well most of the time - but it is frustrating that I'm orchestrating this whole move on my own. When he does feel somewhat ok - he's usually playing video games. It is frustrating because the doctors here in CA can't seem to figure out what the issue is. His diabetes doctors seems like she couldn't care less - not even asking why he was admitted into the ER twice (and she has the best reviews of any doc in the area.. go figure). The doctors at the ER also failed to tell us his urine had ketones and his blood sugar spiked to almost 500 while there. I seriously feel like doctors in CA don't know what they're doing - but that's another topic.
So, I'm frustrated - I don't know what to do or how to deal with my fiancee when he's feeling like this. If I try to assert myself and point out that it's not fair to me to put such a huge burden on me, but he gets angry with me. I do not mind taking care of him at all - but he kind of takes it a step beyond.
For example - when he's about to run out of his meds or the special foods he eats - I tell him to please tell me before he runs out, not when he's out. He just cannot seem to do this. Instead, he will wake me up out of a dead sleep, screaming at me that he's in pain and needs his meds, but they're at the pharmacy (which doesn't open for hours). He always apologizes when he feels better, but I don't know how I can keep going thru this every time it happens.
Anyone have any tips? I know this isn't him and it is totally the illness. Also, he is 25 and I am 29.
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